Can A Highly Sensitive Person Be An Extrovert?

There is a common misconception that a highly sensitive person cannot be an extrovert. HSPs tend to be quiet and reserved. Guess what? You can be both a compassionate person and an extrovert. Highly sensitive extroverts still love social situations and gain energy from being around other people. Still, at the same time, they are susceptible to picking up on the emotions of those around them, being overwhelmed with all the sounds, smells, and lights.

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You can be a highly sensitive person and be an extrovert!

5 Signs You’re an Extroverted Highly Sensitive Person

1. You crave social situations, but you are often overwhelmed and want to leave once you are there.

This is the extrovert HSP roller coaster. It is as if you are alternating between being lonely and overwhelmed. At home by yourself, you are isolated and craving social activities, but once you are there, everything makes you feel overwhelmed. You just want to retreat into the safety of your home, where you will may feel lonely again.

So, how do you get off this rollercoaster?

Understanding your limits is a great place to start. However, not all social situations have to be extravagant. Instead of meeting your friends at a crowded event, why not plan a picnic brunch? Finding ways to be social in less overwhelming spaces can be the solution for the overstimulation that comes with being a highly sensitive person.

2. Your group of friends is small but extremely close.

While other extroverts have circles of friends that seem to range into 100 or more people, you like to keep a closer, smaller community of friends that you know deeply. You are fiercely loyal to your friends, and you speak to them regularly, if not daily. Your friends are a great source of your joy. You love getting to spend time with them, whether it is grabbing a quick coffee or a full-on girls’ weekend. They energize and inspire you.

3. You always notice a minor change in friends, family, and even acquaintances.

Did your friend lose 10 lbs? Yep, you are probably the first one to notice and say something about it. Did your co-worker get a haircut? You likely noticed it before her boyfriend. You are aware of all the small things that make up the people in your life. So, you always make them feel noticed, appreciated and even loved because of your careful attention to detail.

Because you are a highly sensitive person, you pick up on things that other people miss. You use this superpower to make others around you feel amazing.

In addition, you remember the details about things that most people forget. You can’t help but notice all the things that most people forget, and it makes people feel closer to you.

4. You have both an adventurer and poet side of you

While you might not write poetry, you have a thoughtful side that reflects deeply about the world and how you exist in it.

At the same time, your eyes are always directed at the next new experience. You don’t mind if you have to adventure alone, but you would prefer to do it with a group of friends.

You are the person on a group trip that will carve out extra time by waking up earlier than everyone or going to sleep after every one to spend time reflecting on the day and the new experiences you have had.

You probably journal a lot or take lots of photos to capture the experience and relive it later during your quiet moments at home.

5. You can’t figure out if you are an introvert or extrovert.

If you bounce back and forth between feeling like a complete extrovert and feeling like a total introvert, you may very well be a highly sensitive extrovert.

You may say things like, “I am an extroverted introvert.” You probably love chatting with people and being around people but quickly become tired and want solitude and quiet.

You may be a highly sensitive extrovert.

Remember we discussed introversion and extroversion in how someone feels recharged? Highly sensitive extroverts will suffer if they are void of social interaction and may want it in smaller doses and more controlled environments. At the same time, a highly sensitive introvert can easily go a week or more with minimal social contact and feel absolutely fine. They may even feel even more recharged.

Did you discover you are a highly sensitive extrovert? Or, did you find you are more of an introvert?

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