Putting aside time to journal with a partner or friend is a fun (and often intimate) exercise. It’s a great way to explore your inner self, while also gaining a better understanding of your relationship dynamics.
There are so many benefits when it comes to journaling with another person. It helps create the opportunity for dialogue that may not happen otherwise. And, you can express yourself in new ways that wouldn’t be comfortable if you were speaking them aloud!
Journaling as a couple is also useful during challenging times. For example, if you are experiencing conflict and having difficulty with communication, journaling can help you feel more connected. It’s a powerful tool that can help strengthen your intimacy.
I also love journaling as a couple because there is less pressure of “saying the perfect thing”. We have all been there, and it can be very uncomfortable.
Here are some great journaling prompts for getting started with writing as a couple. You can also use these prompts solo as a means of self-reflection in your current relationship. Some of these prompts are serious, while others are much more playful and silly. Personally, I like to mix them up!
These prompts work very well in an anniversary journal. And, if you are looking for more serious journal prompts, you may be interested in these shadow work prompts for relationships.
We also have this printable list of journaling prompts for couples
Journal Prompts for Couples
- If you could describe your partner in 3 words, what would they be?
While you may have many words you would use to describe a loved one, there may be a couple that come to mind right away. If you had to narrow it down to only 3, what would those words be?
Think about why you chose these words and how you feel about them. - How does your partner show they care for others?
Often, our partners show they care for their friends in many different ways than they show care for us. And, this is okay! How does your partner typically show others they care? Is it similar to the ways you show care? - What is the funniest thing about your partner?
Playfulness is such a wonderful quality in a partner! What are some of the funny things your partner does? Do they make you laugh all the time? Do you have inside jokes only the two of you understand? - What does your partner appreciate about you that differs from themselves?
It’s nice to appreciate all the things in common we may have with our partner. However, it’s also good to appreciate our differences. What things does your partner value about you that is different from themselves? Do these qualities correspond with something you value in yourself? - What are some ideas or dreams your partner has expressed?
Our partner may have ideas and dreams they share, but they don’t receive enough encouragement to bring these ideas to life. What ideas and dreams have your partner shared with you? And, how can you better support them? - What’s something you and your partner struggle with?
Without doubt, every relationship has challenges and struggles. What is something you and your partner struggle with? Is the struggle new or has it been a struggle from the start? It might surprise you to find that your partner may have different struggles, and view them a bit differently than you do.
- How would your family describe your relationship with your partner?
It isn’t uncommon to have a different perception of ourselves in our relationship with our partner than how others see us. What’s something your family says about your relationship? Has it always been this way? - What do you love about your partner?
Everyone has qualities they find lovable in their partners (even if the other person doesn’t see it). What qualities do you love about your partner? Do you tell them you love these qualities often enough? - How has your partner changed over the last year?
Relationships change over time, and we don’t always notice it right away. It can take some time! What changes have you noticed in your partner in the last year? Are they positive changes or negative changes? - How does your partner inspire you to be a better person?
Everyone has those “special people” in their lives that inspire them. What’s something your partner does that inspires you to be a better person? Do you inspire your partner in any ways? - What is your partner’s love language?
What is your love language? Are you and your partner’s love languages the same? Do they differ? If you’re not familiar with the 5 love languages, it is worth reading about! - How may your life be different if you never met your partner?
Depending on certain circumstances, people have different paths they may have taken. What may be completely different in your life if you never met your partner? This is a fun prompt to reflect on, as we can never be too sure what would have happened. - How do you feel loved by your partner?
Sometimes, our partners have different ways of showing their love for us. What are some ways your partner shows you they love you? - What are your partner’s favorite activities or hobbies?
What are some of your partner’s favorite activities or hobbies? Do they involve you, other people, or are they just for themselves? Have they always had these hobbies or are they new? - Is your partner a rational person or more emotional?
Some people make decisions by using their head, while others go with what feels right to them in their guts. What’s something your partner says or does that show whether they tend to be more rational or emotional? - What is something you and your partner laugh about together frequently?
Laughing together is wonderful and truly the best medicine. What are some things you and your partner laugh about? It could be an inside joke, a moment from a movie, or a favorite memory. - How do you feel about your partner’s occupation?
Some people find their partner’s occupation to be a big part of who they are. How do you feel about your partner’s work? Do you have a different feeling about their occupation now compared to when they started it?
- How do you feel about your partner’s best friend?
Sometimes, our partner’s closest friend may be someone we don’t get along with. Or you may have a strong connection with your partner’s best friend and that’s okay too. Why do you think your partner likes spending time with this person? - Is your partner introverted or extroverted?
Many people recharge their batteries by being alone, while others need social interaction to feel energized. What is your partner’s personality type? Are they introverted or extroverted? Do you have the same personality type or do your personalities complement each other? - What were your favorite moments during your first date?
Some moments really set the mood for a great first date. What were some of your favorite moments during your first date that you remember. - Describe a time your partner caught you off guard or surprised you. How did you react?
Not everyone likes surprises. In fact, I really dislike them! Has your partner ever surprised you, and what did you do when they did?
- How does your partner take compliments?
Some people struggle to take a compliment, while others brush it off like it was nothing. What’s something your partner does when they receive a compliment from you or others? - When was the last time you made plans for your future?
Many people feel comfortable in the present moment, and others plan for the future every single day. What does your partner like to do? What’s something you and your partner have planned for the future? - How has your partner made you feel special in the last week?
Feeling special means something different for everyone. And, everyone shows love in very different ways. What did your partner do this past week to make you feel special? - When was the last time your partner stepped out of their comfort zone?
It’s important to step out of our comfort zone and challenge ourselves, even if it’s very difficult. Do you and your partner step out of your comfort zones together? When was the last time your partner stepped out of their comfort zone? - How does your partner’s personality compliment your own?
Sometimes we’re drawn to people because our personalities complement each other. They say that opposites attract, right? How is your partner complementary to your personality?
- If your partner wanted to move across the country, what would your reaction be?
While many people tie themselves to their homes, others can move away at the drop of a hat! What would your honest reaction be if your partner said they wanted to move across the country? - What does your partner do that annoys you, but doesn’t bother anyone else?
Everyone can pinpoint specific traits about their partner that annoy them, but others don’t even notice. What is something your partner does that annoys you? - What is your partner’s favorite movie, book, or TV show?
Sometimes our partners like the shows we don’t like, or they read books we would never touch. Is there a film, show, or book your partner really enjoys? If so, what is it and why do you think your partner enjoys it? - What is something you like about your partner that no one else knows about?
Everyone has those traits that are just for themselves and nobody else really knows about them. What are some of your partner’s favorite qualities? Why do you think these are their favorites? - What do you most appreciate about your relationship?
Relationships can be challenging, without a doubt! We have the opportunity to see the best and worst of our partners. Take some time to reflect on all you appreciate about your relationship!
Hopefully, these journal prompts for couples will inspire some great moments to write about. Remember, it’s a great way to release stress from the day and also work through internal problems, alone or with someone else.
It’s also one of the best ways to develop closer relationships with our loved ones. It’s amazing what you can learn when you think you already know everything there is!
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